For both our gender specific and gender inclusive events
If you’re planning on coming to one of our events, please read and follow our Code of Conduct to ensure a safe, fun and consensual environment is maintained for everyone.
You have the right to say ‘No’ to anything you don’t want to do or are uncomfortable with. You also must respect others’ right to say ‘No’ to you. If someone says ‘No’, you must stop as consent is not given to continue. People passed out or too affected by drugs or alcohol can’t give consent.
If something doesn’t feel right or isn’t working, you have the right to stop at anytime. Be polite and when possible, be subtle – let them know you want to stop. You also have a responsibility to stop if someone asks you. If you feel pressured or threatened, speak to one of our event team members or a member of the venue’s staff straight away, they’re there to help.
It can make for an awkward situation to have someone come onto you that you’re not into but it can also be embarrassing for them to be rejected publicly.
Being polite to and respectful of each other, and of everyone’s personal space means no one needs to be embarrassed and you can continue looking for what you’re after.
No mobile phones, cameras and recording devices are allowed at our events and must be cloaked if you have brought one with you.
Condoms will do a good job at protecting you from some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) but not all. So a good testing regime is important to keep you covered.
The best way to stay safe is to keep up your regular HIV & STI testing, and use the tools that work for you – condoms, dental dams, PrEP, UVL, PEP, etc.
If you fail to respect the code of conduct you’ll be asked to leave the event immediately and escorted from the building. If you have acted unlawfully, the police will be called.
We want to create a safe, enjoyable and fun experience for everyone. Our team will do our best to achieve this but we can’t be everywhere at once. If you notice someone breaching the code of conduct, or if someone is making you feel uncomfortable, or something just doesn’t feel right, please inform our team or venue staff immediately. Our team members have ‘Team’ written on their body, or they will be wearing high visibility vests so that you can distinguish them from patrons. Venue staff will be fully clothed.
Thank-you – we really appreciate your support!
We’ve prepared some ‘do’s’ and ‘don’ts’ for when you engage with people with experiences of diverse genders and sexualities:
- Don’t assume someone’s gender based on their appearance.
- Do ask someone what pronouns they use. Pronouns are how we refer to people when we don’t use someone’s name – such he, him, they, them, she, her. For example, If you ask “What pronouns do you use?”, someone might answer “I use the pronouns he and him“, or, “I use they and them“.
- Don’t ask probing questions. It can be very offensive to ask questions about someone’s experiences of being a particular gender, or of their medical history.
- Don’t ask questions about someone’s sex life or their relationships unless they invite you to discuss this.
Often LGBTQIA+ people have experiences of being treated poorly by other people in public places because of their gender or sexuality. We want our gender diverse events and our community generally to be a safe environment for everyone and that starts with us.
Do be respectful to everyone.
Don’t comment or laugh at someone’s appearance.
Here’s a good example of an inclusive language guide from Midsumma: Midsumma’s Inclusive language Guide